A lovely fresh frangipani blooming in my garden.
Feb fast is beginning for many people today and I thought, with this in mind I would write an encouraging blog to get you and me through a month of no booze! I am proud to share that I have not had a drink for 2 weeks already… and my plan is to go 3 months with out drinking alcohol. So far so good!
I have had a few periods of my life where I go cold turkey and do not drink a thing. And I always feel SO GOOD for my healthy choices. I am so proud, I strut more, I hold my clear focussed head up high and feel like a superhero. My resolve is strong once I switch my mind onto the concept of no drinking, and I normally can stick to my guns. However, the bad drinking habits creep back in again stealth like, wearing black, and creep surreptitiously back to the bottle shop. All those healthy new routines fall apart, the headaches return, crazy drunk loud raucous nights return, and the budget blows out. This time I am determined to stick to my 3 month goal, and by doing so, writing here and committing is all very much a part of it. Plus, if I can help others with my determination and hot tips then all the better.
So what is the best way to give up drinking? JUST STOP. No just one more bottle, or I just have to finish what I have in the fridge, or the cupboard, or wherever you stash your supplies. Just stop. Stop it. Giving up anything I believe is 50% mental will power, 25% habitual, and 25% craving. It really is also about tricking your mind into healthier habits. So give away what you have in the cupboards, give it away! Or pour it down the sink, just get it the hell out of your new health kick home!

I come from a long line of drinkers, on both sides of my family tree. Alcoholism, such a dirty word, was never spoken out loud amongst my inner circle. As an adult I began to realise the fact each of my parents could not, or did not want to go a day without drinking, kind of meant they had a problem. Don’t get me wrong, they were the high functioning alchies. They were both super productive, worked every day, were always motivated and knew when to stop. I rarely saw either of them drunk, literally I can count on one hand for both of them. So that doesn’t seem so bad does it? Well they are both dead now, and I do believe alcohol kind of contributed in some way to their cancer demise. But they were happy drunks! Not bad gutter, paper bag drunks. Sophisticated, classy drunks. They did not vomit. (Okay Dad did once that I know of after a long boozy lunch with his best mate at the ripe age of 78. He totally power spewed that grog away. Kudos to you Dad! I do think he already had some cancer lurking in his system, so maybe it was the cancers fault, certainly not the 10 drinks…lol). My point is, I have a family history of very happy consistent drinking behaviour…therefore, it concerns me that I am possibly quite the same. And it appears that generally I am!
When I take all limits away, I like to drink most days. Not crazy amounts but sure 2 to 4 or so. Then there are Friday night drinks with my crazy colleagues. We knock back way more than our standard drink allocations, enough for 10 people probably! Anyhow, enough about me. All you need to know is there is certainly a need to take a break for the time being. And it so far feels great. Really fucking great. Way better than drunk ever feels.
So here are some hot tips to get you motivated and to stay off the booze for the coming month:
- Come up with a replacement non- alcoholic drink that you love. Right now my favourite is Bundaberg lemon lime and bitters, sugar free. It’s lovely! I also like soda water with lime, water with some cordial, then cups of tea. To get you through that peak drinking period, ‘its 5pm/6pm/ time for a drink time’ pour yourself one of these delicious new healthy drinks, even into a nice glass, with ice, and sit somewhere nice, preferably outside in your garden, and sip on your new healthy brew. This new replacement strategy is a good start. So go look for your new favourite drink. Trust me it will be a lot healthier and cheaper than an alcoholic beverage.
- Be firm in your mind that this is your decision to not drink. Willpower is very important in this early stage. You are in control of your actions, and know this is a healthy, good action for your health and wellbeing. Make up your mind and stick to it. You can do it! Make a clear goal of one month, one week, or one year or whatever time frame, and STICK TO IT! You owe this to yourself. And I promise you, the benefits in only a few days will start appearing and will make your resolve stronger. The hardest part is the first 3 days, breaking the habits, and starting new healthy routines.
- Avoid social occasions. Now ofcourse this does not have to be for the whole time, but if you are feeling weak, being around people who are drinking, especially in the first week, may break you. I went to a party recently and I nearly broke. My friend had made a delicious peach Bellini, ohhh it looked AMAZING! But I resisted, and trust me, I felt so much better for my choice. I was so responsible!
- Go to bed early. Go to bed by 9pm. Seriously, your body and mind will love you for the rest. Read a book, write in a journal have sex if you have a partner (lucky you), just go to bed and be done with the night and temptation.
- Wake up early and exercise. Now because you went to bed so darn early, it is easy to rise early and start a new exercise routine. Your choice, get into cycling, a beach walk, a walk in a local park, some stretches on a yoga mat, whatever, just move your body and get active. You will feel many benefits from this. And you won’t have a hangover, so that early morning movement will feel great.

I could write many more suggestions, but I will leave it there for now. I will write again in a few weeks and check in to see how you are going, and report my progress too. I hope you find these suggestions helpful! Good luck and stick to it! We are in this together! Feel free to message me in my comments and let me know if you are attempting Feb fast!
Anita xx
Continue on with your sobriety track! Good job for crossing another milestone and am sure you will get to your goal. Rest, eat, love and live – be happy. Happy Friday 🙂
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Thanks very much! X
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Maybe I need to move in with you to achieve this Anita.. God I love reading your blogs they are just brilliant. Wish I had your talent.. But in saying that I’ve not had a drink since Sunday night and drove straight past the bottling on the way home. So sparkling mineral water for me tonight. Woo hoo. Might have a day off with you when you next go to Mullaloo.
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Ohh thanks darl!! So glad you like my blog! And good on you! Are you going to try for no booze in feb?? X
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Hello Anita, good stuff leaving off the alcohol for a bit. I like a drink (beer) but only socially, just don’t get off on drinking on my own. Really like the photo of the tree trunk and ferns.
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Thanks! Yes I took that photo recently when camping just south of Perth 😉
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I’d recommend the book, This Naked Mind, by Annie Grace to learn more about living AF.
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Thanks! I think I have read it but will look into it again. I am 5 weeks in 🙂
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I just stopped drinking as well and can relate to what you shared. My initial goal is also 90 days, but plan to be alcohol free for life. They say 12 weeks to make a new habit, so that’s why I have that milestone as my first goal to celebrate. Keep sharing!
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Thanks very much ☆ good luck on your journey!
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Thanks so much! Good luck on your journey. Remember one day at a time. 🙂
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AA worked for my wife…. 40+ years,….. For the first ten years i avoided it for her comfort … now one cheap $& cent beer with dinner, that was 47 cent
Sme quit when they are “sick and tired” of being sick and tired
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Brilliant roundup… I use all of these and they work.
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Very good advice. Keep it up.
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