Being single can be really annoying. It feels everyone is getting on in their lives and having the BEST time, and time seems to be stalling for me. I know I am not alone here, there are millions of people on their own, blah blah, but the truth is, its a total pain in the arse right!? LOL! Why cant we get our shit together?? Make this whole life, relationship, baby thing just magically happen?? Who knows how it happens, but I do think it can come down to a stroke of luck, and timing, that magical T word.
As I sat on the beach and gazed despondently at the happy families gayly swimming about and generally frolicking with glee, I felt sad and glum and pitied my sorry lonely self. It was a lovely sunny day, and the beach was glorious, the water crystal clear and a cool breeze made it all awesome. As a bad thought wafted through my mind like a bad smell, tears welled and streamed my face. I get these sad moments. They are annoying. I just let them happen now. I know they pass. And sure enough as quick as they come, boom, wipe those tears, go for a swim, life is to be enjoyed!
On return from my second swim I started chatting with a lady who sat beside me with her two little babies. I was surprised to hear her story, and she immediately brightened my mood. She had her first baby at 38. She met her husband randomly on a diving excursion, when she was paired by chance with her would be husband. She never thought she would settle down, she was constantly in transition, restless and couldn’t even care for pets, that’s how restless she used to be. I really could relate. I feel much the same way. And then boom, out of nowhere, on a holiday, she met a man she could settle with and raise a family with. Attraction and love were not instant, but in a short amount of time, things changed, and they grew closer and their connection soared. Within a short time, he had packed up his life here in Perth and went to join her in Quebec Canada. They travelled a little together and then married, then came back to live in Perth. Soon they were raising a small family. Unbelievable! Proof that life really can change in an instant.
I was really pleased to meet this lady on the beach. She was encouraging and hopeful and straight forward. Life when you’re single feels like it could be like that forever. But in reality nothing is forever. Things change all the time. The cogs of life are forever turning, just when it feels like nothing is different, boom, everything is different, and nothing will ever look the same again.
It is important to appreciate our present moment and make the most of every situation we are in. Challenge or bliss, make the most of the little things, be grateful for your good fortune, make plans and take positive steps towards a brighter future.
Do you like being single? Do you have hope for a blissful future!? I hope so!